Comments on: Random thoughts about “step” parenting http://www.jonathanhickman.com/2007/06/29/random-thoughts-about-step-parenting/ stream of consciousness blogging Thu, 20 Nov 2008 23:38:54 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7-beta3 hourly 1 By: jon http://www.jonathanhickman.com/2007/06/29/random-thoughts-about-step-parenting/comment-page-1/#comment-11191 jon Tue, 10 Jul 2007 17:20:54 +0000 http://www.jonathanhickman.com/2007/06/29/random-thoughts-about-step-parenting/#comment-11191 Well said. Well said.

]]> By: Katrina http://www.jonathanhickman.com/2007/06/29/random-thoughts-about-step-parenting/comment-page-1/#comment-11131 Katrina Mon, 09 Jul 2007 16:10:15 +0000 http://www.jonathanhickman.com/2007/06/29/random-thoughts-about-step-parenting/#comment-11131 I totally relate to what you are saying. Especially the last part: "Sometimes it feels like step-parenting is parenting without all of the privileges and recognition." I, too, am a step-parent to three kids. We haven't had our own child yet, but are planning on it. We have the kids all summer and it has been a big transition, especially because i am the one staying home with them while my husband works. I have felt too, that I am doing everything that any mom does, but I'll never be their mom. I'll never be the one they miss and need in that way kids miss and need their moms. So I do find myself holding back a part of myself to protect myself from being hurt when they say, "I want my mommy." I totally relate to what you are saying. Especially the last part: “Sometimes it feels like step-parenting is parenting without all of the privileges and recognition.” I, too, am a step-parent to three kids. We haven’t had our own child yet, but are planning on it. We have the kids all summer and it has been a big transition, especially because i am the one staying home with them while my husband works. I have felt too, that I am doing everything that any mom does, but I’ll never be their mom. I’ll never be the one they miss and need in that way kids miss and need their moms. So I do find myself holding back a part of myself to protect myself from being hurt when they say, “I want my mommy.”

]]> By: Emmett Pennington http://www.jonathanhickman.com/2007/06/29/random-thoughts-about-step-parenting/comment-page-1/#comment-10368 Emmett Pennington Sun, 01 Jul 2007 13:35:23 +0000 http://www.jonathanhickman.com/2007/06/29/random-thoughts-about-step-parenting/#comment-10368 Labels are powerful.... if you let them define who you are. I like your beginning...“Step-parent” is really a noun, not a verb; if I’m doing my job at home, I’m not step-parenting the kids, I’m parenting them." Very well stated. I have read posts about Father's Day and how step dads should have their own holiday.... and I ask why? We are dads, and celebration on Father's day is about dads...and kids. Enjoy the kids...enjoy life. You can wash clothes but you can't wash memories. Enjoy, Emmett Pennington, Visionary Step Dad Labels are powerful….

if you let them define who you are.

I like your beginning…“Step-parent” is really a noun, not a verb; if I’m doing my job at home, I’m not step-parenting the kids, I’m parenting them.”

Very well stated.

I have read posts about Father’s Day and how step dads should have their own holiday….

and I ask why? We are dads, and celebration on Father’s day is about dads…and kids.

Enjoy the kids…enjoy life. You can wash clothes but you can’t wash memories.

Enjoy,

Emmett Pennington, Visionary Step Dad

]]> By: your wife http://www.jonathanhickman.com/2007/06/29/random-thoughts-about-step-parenting/comment-page-1/#comment-10180 your wife Fri, 29 Jun 2007 12:56:48 +0000 http://www.jonathanhickman.com/2007/06/29/random-thoughts-about-step-parenting/#comment-10180 I have always hated the word step parent. I think it's demeaning to both the step parent and the birth parents. I have always hated the word step parent. I think it’s demeaning to both the step parent and the birth parents.

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